April 2026
By Theresa Sheldon
As we enter spring break, it’s easy as a parent to feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and stressed out about how to balance your children’s needs, your needs and work. This can be even harder if you are a single parent or the parent of a child with special needs. It’s a lot and we don’t talk about the everyday stresses enough. Imagine if we lived in a community where parents felt supported enough, safe enough, and comfortable enough to ask for help- our ancestors had this.
As a parent, we learn how to parent from how we were parented or for many of how we were not parented. What if we felt comfortable enough to pick up the phone and call someone like Sasha Smith (Tulalip Tribal member), who overseesTulalip Tribes parenting classes and say “When my child throws a temper tantrum , I do not like how I respond. I have no idea how to do it differently. Afterwards, I feel guilty, ashamed, frustrated, and upset with myself. Yet, this is how I always respond”.
Sasha Smith’s has multiple programs worth participating in:
- Family Spirit is our one-on-one support for families with children under 5 years old.
- Moms group every Tuesday – 11 am-1pm
- Dads group every Wednesday 430pm-530pm
- Parenting classes- Starts April 9th 10am-3pm
What would it take to feel comfortable enough to say this to someone who could then support you in learning a new way to respond? There’s a sense of loss, a sense of failure, and a sense of frustration when we don’t have the tools we need- the tools we deserve.
What if we looked at parenting differently and saw it as a way to learn, expand and grow? What if our community embraced sharing the challenges they are experiencing without the fear that we might be judged? What if we were given the opportunity to be better as a whole?
The World Health Organization (WHO) upholds that children have the fundamental right to the highest attainable standard of health, safety, and development, based on the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child. Key rights include access to nutrition, protection from abuse, education, play, and specialized care.
Should we as a Tribe create the rights of Tulalip children from a cultural and spiritual place of being? Would you be interested in coming together to create something similar to this:
• Health and Survival: Every child has the right to a healthy start in life, including nutritious food, safe drinking water, and quality health services.
• Protection from Harm: Children have the right to be protected from maltreatment, including violence, abuse, and exploitation. Children have the right one loved.
• Development and Education: Children have the right to education, rest, and play to ensure proper growth.
• Identity and Family: Children have the right to a traditional name, culture, language, and to be cared for by their parents whenever possible.
• Participation: Children have the right to express their opinions, which should be taken seriously by adults.
Research has shown that the period from pregnancy to age three is critical for brain development. Are we doing enough for families from birth to three with regards to health and survival, protection from harm, development and education, identity and family, and participation?
It’s not enough to survive but how are we ensuring children of the Tulalip Tribes are thriving?
Some solutions can be found in implementing policies that ensure children receive care and support, especially for those with disabilities or those in unsafe homes but many solutions are within our own teachings and community members. Governments have a duty to ensure that children have access to information and support services which truly speaks to the need for prevention programs as this is where children learn about their rights, their own boundaries for their body, and their own safety. An April call to action, how do we guarantee the rights of children of the Tulalip Tribes are loved, protected, and grow in a safe home and Tribe?























