Author: Kim Kalliber

By Kalvin Valdillez, Tulalip News

On the evening of May 3, hundreds of Tulalip citizens and members from nearby tribes convened at the Gathering Hall for the 2^nd Annual MMIWP Awareness Day event. Designed to bring attention to the MMIWP epidemic, as well as uplift those families who have been affected by the crisis, the MMIWP gathering at Tulalip is a rollercoaster of emotions that is equal parts heartbreaking and healing. 

“The number of MMIP grows so much every year at Tulalip and across the land. The duty of spreading awareness on this matter falls on every one of us,” said Anita Matta, Tulalip Police Department Program Manager, and lead organizer of the MMIWP gathering. “I would like to share a few statistics: in Washington State, Native people make up 1.6% of the population, but make up 17% of missing people in the State. And as for violence against Indigenous women and girls, 4 out 5 of our women have experienced violence and 55.5% have been physically abused by their intimate partners. And 40% of sex trafficking victims are Native American and Alaskan Indian women.”

Nationally, May 5 is dedicated to raising awareness about the Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women and Persons epidemic that continues to plague Native America. Every day, more and more of our relatives are reported missing, and thousands of individuals have yet to be found. Additionally, the rate at which Native people are murdered in the US is higher than any other ethnicity. And it’s important to remember, that with any statistics gathered while dealing with the MMIWP epidemic, the true numbers may never be known as many cases and incidents are either underreported, misreported, or left unresolved. 

Though still in its infancy stage, the MMIWP Awareness Day event has been met with great reception from the community, and has done an amazing job of paying tribute to those Tulalip members who have been reported missing or who have been murdered and are no longer with us. A recurring theme and important piece to this event is based around the phrase ‘SAY THEIR NAMES’, which has been featured on the back of the event t-shirts at each of the awareness gatherings thus far. 

Upon stepping into the entryway of the Gathering Hall, attendees were handed red t-shirts and the Tulalip Youth Council were also passing out candles for the candlelight vigil. Directly behind them was a large poster, where the youth invited the people to write down the names of their loved ones or a message to the victims of the MMIWP epidemic. 

Twelve Tulalip tribal members, who are missing or were murdered, were recognized during the Friday night gathering. Their selfies and family photos were highlighted in a slideshow, that was casted on several large projector screens, and it continuously played on a loop throughout the entire evening. Their portraits were also featured beside red dresses, a national symbol that helps bring attention to the MMIWP crisis, all throughout the Gathering Hall. And keeping true to Tulalip’s MMIWP slogan, we’re going to pay our respect and say their names here as well; Cecil Lacy Jr., Anthony Kitsap Sam, Bridgette Simpson, Mary Davis Johnson, Nina Mae Dell, Kyle Van Jones-Tran, Sophia Solomon, Hayleigh Jo McGhie, Jessica Christian Jones, Andrew M.L. Fryberg, Gina Blatchford, and Jolene Leanne Flores. 

While the people settled in and shared a meal together, members of the Tulalip Board of Directors offered a few words to kick-off the event. 

Said Theresa Sheldon, “I’m so grateful that we can come together and actually be honest and open and talk about what MMIWP means to us. We wear them on our shirts, and we post on social media who we lost. We say their names, so they’re not forgotten. We say their names, so they know they were loved and cared about.”

Added Chairwoman, Teri Gobin, “My heart goes out to those who are still missing, the families whose hearts are broken, and all of those families who have suffered from the loss of a loved one. I know that by having these events, by saying their names, by being here together, we honor those who are missing or were murdered. Keep a warm place in your heart for them and always remember their names. They were our members, they were our family, they were our community. We will always be here to try to do whatever we can to honor them and tell the families how much we love them; how much we appreciate them. And we’ll pray for those to come home and those who are still suffering, we just love them.”

Other guest speakers that evening included the Tulalip Chief of Police, members of the Tulalip Bay Fire Department, Lena Hammons who is on the National Board for Human Trafficking and Domestic Violence, as well as the team who helped organize the event, which consisted of both government employees and community members. The Tulalip Legacy of Healing and Child Advocacy Center were in attendance, providing information about the services they offer, as was the recently established Crisis Response Team. 

“I am here to ask all of you to start working toward prevention. Educate yourself. If you or someone you know is in a DV relationship, reach out for help,” urged Lena. “The Tribe has a lot of resources. TPD takes it very seriously. The Child Advocacy Center and the Legacy of Healing take it very seriously, you just have to reach out. We can save each other. We can protect each other. Let’s take care of each other and please, let’s love each other.”

There wasn’t a dry eye in the Gathering Hall when it came time for families to share the stories of either the disappearance or murder of their loved ones. Through heavy sobs, the mothers and fathers who spoke on the mic, pleaded for the parents in the building to tell their kids they love them on a daily basis. And they advised everyone in the hall to step-in and step-up if they notice their loved one has become involved in an abusive and unhealthy relationship. Whether looking for the whereabouts of their lost family member or seeking justice for those who were murdered, each family asked for the community’s support and help in bringing closure to the families.  

Nona Davis, sister of Mary Davis Johnson, shared, “I would just like to say that we appreciate everybody who is here today. We ask that you please tell anybody and everybody about our sister, Mary Davis Johnson, who has disappeared. All we want is her to be back. I want her back. Our family wants her back. And with everything that we been through, it’s been a struggle – but tonight I can say that we’ve all been through this together, because everybody that is gathered here today is going through the same thing we’re going through. And we support everybody here, and all we want in return is the same from everybody else, the support to help us find our sister.”

Tribal members Sarah Hart and Monie Ordonia were honored and recognized for their efforts in bringing attention to the epidemic. The week leading up to National MMIWP Awareness Day, Sarah and Monie dedicated their time to help raise awareness for the MMIWP crisis by placing red dresses and red shirts in highly visible areas throughout the reservation. As mentioned earlier, red dresses have become the national symbol to help raise awareness for the Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women and Persons epidemic. Each dress is hung upright to give the illusion that someone is wearing it, but the woman whom it belongs to is missing. Sarah and Monie painted the names of those Tribal members who fell victim to the epidemic on each article of clothing that they hung up this year. 

While they were in the process of conducting this work, Sarah took to Facebook and said, “In 2020, I knew I wanted to bring awareness for our communities, for our brothers and sisters. I started hanging up red dresses, and my first year I did it alone. My second year, I put the call out asking if anyone wanted to come with. Monie showed up bright and early to meet me and we have been doing this every year together since. We pray, smudge, and do this with the best intentions and love in our hearts. It’s not for the clout. It’s not about likes. It’s not about being boastful. It’s about awareness.”

Sarah and Monie then invited all the women in attendance up to the floor, and together they created a beautiful and powerful moment as they sang the Women’s Warrior song. On the last verse, they all put their fist in the air to send strength and honor those lives lost and those souls who are still missing. 

Following the event, Monie shared, “Thank you all who came over to the Tulalip Gathering Hall for our MMIWP Awareness Day event. It was a very emotional evening. I pray that we were able to honor those loved ones we have lost, who are either missing or murdered. I hope in some ways we could be part of the medicine that brings healing to the survivors who are still affected by the loss of their loved ones.”

Josh Fryberg, the event’s emcee, called for a moment of silence for the victims of the epidemic and their families. He then asked the families to gather at the center of the floor so that the singers and dancers could offer their prayers and medicine byway of traditional drumbeats. Antone George (Lummi) was in attendance to lead the drummers with the impactful MMIW song, which he composed and contain the lyrics: Every day and every night, I pray, pray for you. I love and miss you.  Sister, come home. 

The night concluded with a coastal jam as the crowd formed a circle to witness the dancers and singers pour their hearts out on the floor, in dedication of their lost or murdered loved ones. 

Tulalip tribal member, Cary Williams, stated, “I’m in support here today for my family, our Tribe, in solidarity of all the families affected. Personally, I am affected. One of my best friends from high school is currently missing right now. It affects all communities. These prayers are something we can do on our part to uplift those relatives who are missing, to call out to their spirit and call them home, here to us. And for the relatives who are gone, who are not with us any longer, this is a time for us to let our emotions go, on this floor. And this is the best way we can be possible – in our culture, active in our lifeways here in Tulalip. Today, it really uplifts my heart to lay it out on the floor and walk out of this place much lighter than when I walked in. And to be able to put my best friends name on that poster was healing for me that I didn’t know I needed.”

If you would like to learn more about the MMIW epidemic, please visit www.NativeHope.org for more information. And if you have any information regarding those Tribal members who are missing, please contact TPD at (360) 716-9911.

“This was healing for me, especially after what happened with my cousin Jenzele,” expressed Youth Council member, Arielle Valencia. “It just felt really nice being here and to heal in a way of decolonization. It really proves how healing our culture is and how far we have come.”

When asked what the key takeaway is for the youth she said, “Learn your culture, be able to respect others, and be on the lookout for other people. You may not know the person, but you’re related. You’re related to everyone on the rez no matter what. Blood or not. Be connected to them.”

By Kalvin Valdillez, Tulalip News

Summer is right around the corner! As the weather warms up and the kiddos prepare for their last stretch of school for the year, one can’t help but look ahead at all the exciting, engaging, and educational events that are on the horizon at Tulalip.  

Tulalip is known for planning an entertaining summer each year, which always includes a healthy dose of imparting cultural knowledge to the next generations. For tribal members, summertime events and activities are often based around the act of exercising your treaty rights and flexing your tribe’s sovereignty through harvesting cedar, huckleberries, and salmon, as well as selling federally legal fireworks at Boom City. 

With several events scheduled to happen over the next two months, it might be easy to overlook and ultimately miss out on any number of the upcoming gatherings. For this reason, we compiled a list of some of the major happenings taking place at Tulalip throughout May and June. So, make sure to bookmark this story and input these following dates into your digital calendar!

Culture Night  – Every Tuesday – 5:30 p.m. at the Kenny Moses Building 

Come join the community for a night of jamming and regalia crafting! This is a great gathering to help introduce the kiddos and newbies alike to the cultural way of life. Songs and dances are practiced at a slower pace, ensuring that the youngins learn every step and chant, so they will be ready to perform at game speed when the time comes. 

This year, the community is focused on making color matching regalia items that include shawls and vests, so they can proudly represent Tulalip at all the upcoming cultural events taking place this summer.

Canoe Practice – Every Wednesday – 5:30 p.m. at the Tulalip Marina

Build up your endurance for this year’s pull to Puyallup for the youth canoe journey! Although the paddle to Ahousaht was canceled, the epic and fan favorite event will continue with a journey for tribal youth throughout the region. 

Not participating in the canoe journey? Come on out anyway and enjoy that powerful connection to the Salish Sea, that is a unique spiritual experience for coastal tribal members. And who knows, there may be an opportunity for you to navigate the traditional waterways this summer. In years past, when the Canoe Journey was canceled during the pandemic, the Tribe organized a pull to Lopez Island for a camping trip. Similarly, the recovery community often plans a recovery camp out at Lopez, that is sure to include a canoe pull through the local waters.

Salmon Ceremony Practice – Every Thursday – 5:30 p.m. at the Tulalip Gathering Hall

Learn about the importance of the Tribe’s annual Salmon Ceremony and the story of its revival that occurred in the seventies. Salmon Ceremony practice is special to witness because this a space where Tribal leaders and elders pass down teachings to the next generation in real time. There are nearly a dozen songs and dances that the Tribe rehearses each practice, which of course is all in preparation for welcoming and honoring the first king salmon of the year. 

Salmon Ceremony is set for June 1 at 10:30 a.m.

War Canoe Races – Happening this weekend (5/4 & 5/5) – All Day at Tulalip Bay

A thrilling occurrence for both competitors and spectators alike, the Salish-wide canoe racing event will make an early appearance at Tulalip Bay this year. In fact, if you are reading this fresh out your mailbox, get yourself over to the teen center campus to catch a good view of the races! 

Over a hundred racers take part every year and hit the waters at full speed, making laps from the Tulalip longhouse to Hermosa beach and back again. Designed with swiftness in mind, the war canoes are sleek and narrower than traditional cedar dugouts. Racers train year-round in hopes of bringing home the first-place trophy for the Tulalip Bay circuit. This year there will be single, double, six-man, and eleven-man races throughout the weekend. 

Memorial Day – 5/27 – 10 a.m. service at Priest Point Cemetery, 11 a.m. service at Mission Beach Cemetery

In observation of Memorial Day, the Tulalip Tribes holds two services every year, as many of the Tribe’s membership enlisted and proudly served in the US military. The community gathers at both the Priest Point and Mission Beach cemeteries to honor and remember those fallen soldiers who paid the ultimate sacrifice while protecting this Nation’s freedom. 

The Tribe also takes time to thank the Tribal veterans, Gold Star Mothers, as well as any current active-duty members of the military for their service. At the end of each ceremony, the Tribe pays tribute to the fallen soldiers with a 21-Gun Salute by the Tulalip Honor Guard, as the names of those who served and are no longer with us are read aloud during roll call. 

Tulalip’s Annual Stick Games Tournament – Weekend of May 31 – all day at the Tulalip Amphitheater

The Tulalip Amphitheater has become the official home for the Tribes annual stick games tournament. Natives from all across North America journey to the Tulalip rez to try their luck at the traditional game that has been practiced amongst Northwest tribes and First Nation bands for thousands of years. Numerous teams participate every year at Tulalip and play for a chance to win cash prizes. 

This year’s total payout is $50,000 and the grand prize is $25,000. There will also dozens of vendors at the tournament selling the likes of Indian tacos, snow cones, smoked salmon, kettle corn, as well as Native-designed clothing, blankets, and jewelry.

Salmon Ceremony – June 1 – 10:30 a.m. at the Tulalip Longhouse

Once a year, during the first weekend of June, Tulalip members gather at the Tribe’s longhouse to honor and pay tribute to big chief yubəč, the king salmon. For generations, the salmon have provided delicious nourishment for the people. And to show their respect, Tulalip holds an annual Salmon Ceremony celebration at the start of each fishing season to welcome the first king salmon of the year. 

Celebrated since the beginning of time, the traditional ceremony was once outlawed during the assimilation era. In the mid-70’s, the ceremony was revived by Harriette Shelton Dover and a number of Tulalip elders. The gathering also serves as a way to bless the local fisherman as they prepare for a season on the water. 

Powerful songs, stories and dances are shared as the first salmon of the season is escorted onto the shore of Tulalip Bay. After the people offer a blessing, through song, prayer, and dance, the salmon is prepared, served, and enjoyed by the entire community together. The remains are sent back to the Salish Sea, so that yubəč can return to his village and tell the salmon people how well he was treated by the community of Tulalip. And in turn, the salmon will continue to run through the waterways of Tulalip Bay and serve as sustenance for the Tribe throughout the summer.

Boom City – Mid-June – July 4^th at Boom City site

The Northwest pyrotechnic capital will officially be open for a two-week period this June! Tulalip entrepreneurs will set up their vibrant and creatively designed stands at the lot located behind the Tulalip Resort Casino approximately around the weekend of June 21.

As always, the stand owners will have innumerable types of fireworks available for purchase including cakes, firecrackers, bottle rockets, sparklers, Roman candles, fountains, smoke bombs, pop-its, and many more. Boom City also offers a designated area for people to enjoy their fireworks safely and legally. Several food vendors will be stationed at Boom City as well, serving up treats such as Hawaiian shaved ice, frybread and tacos.

By Kalvin Valdillez, Tulalip News

Help spread the word! A four-hour event, dedicated to empowering Tulalip fathers, and other tribal dads, will be held at the TELA gym on Wednesday May 22. Known as the Fatherhood Community Café, the event is organized by the Washington Fatherhood Council and has been held in various counties in our state over the past few years. 

Tulalip will be one of the few, if not the first, Washington State tribe the council has collaborated with. The departments that are involved in planning the event, which is officially dubbed ‘Dad Allies Community Café’ for the Tulalip stop, include Family Haven, TELA, and Housing. In addition to the abundance of resources and information that will be available at the community café, the departments incorporated time for some culture and is inviting fathers to bring their drums for a mini coastal jam. 

According to research by the National Fatherhood Initiative, 1 in 5 children live without a father in the home unit within Washington State. The same study showed that 30% of single parents in our state are dads. 

Said Dieter Jacobs, Child Support Program Administrator at Washington State Department of Social and Health Services, “Research shows that when fathers are engaged, the children do better, and we need to support that. Dads bring something different to the table in that fatherhood role. We need to support fathers – we need to support the whole family. With the café, we want to get providers at the table to chat with the dads. We want them to talk about local happenings as well as things like child support, court, access to education, and for those incarcerated– how to support them while they’re in jail and how do we continue that when they come out. But it’s important we get them talking about what’s working, what’s not working, and what would work. Just sharing info and giving them an opportunity to ask questions. And dad allies are invited too – in laws, girlfriends.”

Dieter, who is also a member of the Washington Fatherhood Council, explained that the council is advocating for local fathers statewide by raising awareness, assisting in policy changes to be more inclusive for dads in state programs and schools, and also through a number of activities that include an annual fatherhood summit, a workshop series, and the fatherhood cafés.  

Space is limited, so if you are interested in attending the Dad Allies Community Café, please sign-up at https://www.eventbrite.com/e/fathers-matter-a-community-conversation-with-tulalip-tribal-dads-tickets-850985940857. The event begins at 10 a.m. and runs until 2 p.m. Fathers who choose to participate in the café will receive a gift card incentive for their time. Childcare will also be offered during the day of the event, so dads can take their time and learn about a number of topics such as housing, employment, and fatherhood services. 

A free lunch will be catered by local Hawaiian restaurant, Taste of Aloha. And there will plenty of chances to win an assortment of prizes by participating in a basketball shooting contest, a cornhole contest, and a raffle. 

“We want to make sure our fathers have support and can come together and build a core group, build community, and have space to move forward in a good way,” expressed Sasha Smith, Family Haven’s Youth and Family Support Coordinator. “We want to help give them tools to feel more successful and to engage in services, culture, community, and help them be the dad that they want to be. We hear you, Indigenous dads. We’re here for you, we want to support you. Make sure you sign up and come break bread with us.”