Love=Love: Tulalip Celebrates LGBTQ2S+ Community

By Kalvin Valdillez, Tulalip News

Tulalip’s annual LGBTQ+ celebration experienced quite the glow up this year, moving from the small concession area of the ball fields to the spacious Gathering Hall. New location, same good times, with the addition of more activities and more room for event goers to get their groove on. 

The vibrant colors of the rainbow flag and the transgender flags served as official colors of the celebration and decorated the entire Hall on the afternoon of August 4, including in a variety of balloon arrangements and dessert displays. Everywhere you looked, people were smiling ear to ear and laughing whole heartedly amongst friends and family. The major inspiration behind this gathering was to create a fun environment where tribal and community members, who identify as LGBTQ+ or 2-spirit, could build community and celebrate their lifestyle in a safe space. 

From the get-go, the pride event has been a smash hit in the community and has seen both great attendance and participation. During the planning phase of the first pride celebration in 2020, event organizer and Tulalip community member, Phoenix Two Spirit (Cree), shared, “It is so very important for the 2-spirit community to be included in all of Indian Country, in all the councils, education, youth, advisory committees – It’s part of the decolonization process, recognizing that 2-spirit people have been in the Indigenous community since time immemorial. And it’s time to recognize that there is a place for 2-spirit people in the tribal community, that they hold a special place. This is not new. This is reclaiming our past.”

The gathering is sponsored and organized by the Problem Gambling Program. Coordinator Sarah Sense Wilson assured they are just getting started, and there’s still much work to be done in embracing and showing support to our local LGBTQ+ community. 

Said Sarah, “I would love to bring in even more people and have more visibility to honoring, and respecting, and holding up our 2-spirit relatives. I know in different pockets of the community that there is still a non-acceptance. Even though there’s this idea that we’re a community of inclusiveness, we know that we’re not there yet. And I don’t mean just Tulalip, I mean nationwide. And so, anything that we can do to keep moving the needle forward and marching forward and celebrating and honoring and including everybody, the healthier our communities are overall. That’s my hope. It would be wonderful to have more Tribal leaders participate as well. I wish we had more Coast Salish drumming and singing, an opening prayer in Lushootseed, and just those kinds of elements.”

DJ Monie

Aptly dubbed ‘Pride Everyday’, this particular celebration also includes a healthy dose of culture. Indigenous pride was on full display as attendees participated in events such as the popular fashion contest, which categories include best ribbon skirt, best ribbon shirt, and best earrings. And of course, there ain’t no party like a DJ Monie party, who returned this year and provided all the classic summertime jams throughout the afternoon. Also returning for the third consecutive year was MC Randy Vendiola and Grand Marshal Sage Vendiola, who ensured everything went smoothly and according to schedule, with both good humor and grace. 

With the additional space, Sarah called in a few programs to host resource booths. Event goers could learn about the services that programs like beda?chelh, the Legacy of Healing, and the Healing to Wellness Court offer, all while obtaining free swag, playing games, creating arts and crafts, getting temporary tattoos, and building sage bundles. 

Indigenous author Sasha LaPointe (Upper Skagit/Nooksack), who wrote Red Paint: The Ancestral Autobiography of a Coast Salish Punk, was the guest of honor at this year’s event. Sasha held a live reading of her book, as well as a signing, and everyone in attendance received a free copy of her work. 

The five-hour event concluded with a dance party that has now officially become a yearly tradition. Everyone joins together to leave it all on the dance floor, getting down to jams like the Cha Cha Slide, the Macarena, and We Are Family.

Following the gathering, DJ Monie shared a parting message, “Thank you for all the folks who showed up today to represent. It means a lot to our community to be heard, seen, acknowledged, and included. Keep up the good work in including all of us, because at the end of the day, there’s no difference in sexual orientation when you take your last breath. Love one another. Be more compassionate of the people who are around because you never know who is listening. One of my friends’ kid was using the word gay as a slander. If I didn’t correct him, he wouldn’t know better. If you see someone using words like gay in a demeaning way, correct them, because it only perpetuates separation if we continue to allow it.”